Why do I find such shitty ass friends?

I've lost a number of friends in my life due to drama. I fucking hate drama. There's nothing I hate more than bullshit girl drama.

There's this guy that started at my work...wait, wait, maybe I should start with my new "friend". She lives in the building across from mine. Our patio's face each other so we spent last summer just waving at each other as we both lounged on our patios, drinking beer, reading our books. Eventually she invited me over for a beer, and well, we hit it off. She was a lot of fun to be around and had NO drama. I mean she had a little drama but never dwelled on it and it never seem to affect how she lived her day to day life.

One day I text her as I ran into the new guy at work. He was so damn cute and totally my style. I ended up chatting with him a bit, we had our first aid class together the following week and I was looking forward to hanging out with him. We hit it off almost immediately during our course and by the time I had gotten home that first night, he had added me to FB. Excited, I logged on and saw we had 3 mutual friends. Two were work friends (which made sense) and one was my friend from the other building. I text her as soon as I saw that. Something like, "woah! small world, you know the new guy at work?! weird!" After a long silence, I got a message back from her. "Stay the fuck away from him. He is mine. I will not say it again, stay the fuck away from him." Ummmm, excuse me?!

First of all, I am respectful of my friends and expect the same sort of respect back. What she said to me was beyond a level of disrespect that I will stand for. I called her out on it. I could care less about the guy, I mean had she said to me "Amanda, I have a history with him and it would hurt me if you pursued it." I would have been fine. But no one has a right to say what she said to me. I do not put up with bullshit drama.I called her out on it and she chose not to respond. I mean the guy isn't worth talking about anymore but I am still a little bent out of shape about the whole thing. We spent a good two months awkwardly avoiding each other in the parking lot and around the neighborhood and one day she finally called me and asked to talk. Really she just wanted some books that I had back and that was fine. She never said one word about what she said to me or how she reacted to the whole situation. But I thought, to make my life here a little less awkward and annoying, I'll just smile and be nice. So she starts calling and texting again and I start smiling nicely and not avoiding her so much anymore.

Regardless of how I pretend to be her friend, she is still a shitty person in my books. I want to clarify that it has nothing to do with the guy. I get people have history and I get that it would be hard for a friend to go out with someone you used to have a history with - I respect that. It has everything to do with what she said and the fact that she refuses, to this day, to apologize for being a bitch.

The truth is, I still avoid her and she's catching on. She whines when I go out with my other friends. She whines when I don't text her back right away, she has become the epitome of the kind of friend I hate. She is clingy and annoying. I wish I could just cut ties but it was so awkward whenever I would run into her. I seriously hope she moves soon.

I think I'm a good friend. I take care of my friends. My friends mean everything to me and I will do whatever I have to do to be there for them but I won't for her. It is a superficial relationship and that is it.

A Whole New Low

We might be writing DB off as a friend. I'm not going to get into all the details, it's more or less just standing up for my girls but the intensity of disgust I feel towards him right now is pretty high.

I will say that Girl Version and I have turned into pretty good friends. She's got a kind heart and obviously would stand up for any and all of her friends. After they broke though, DB and I hung out more often. Nothing inappropriate happened, just friends. Occasionally I was reminded why I disliked him some of the time, but for the most part he was a decent friend. He came over on Sunday for a bbq...he told me about this girl he's smitten over. I've never heard him used the word smitten before and he seemed generally excited about her so I was excited for him. Until of course he drops the bomb..."yah Girl Version actually introduced us." I'm sorry, what did you say? You're going to put the moves on your ex girlfriend's friend? I said "is that really cool? I mean, you guys broke up not too long ago and we both know that it wasn't her idea." He gave me a dirty look and then shrugged.

I said, "DB, this is so against the rules, c'mon now." "Girl Version isn't like that. She won't care. And besides this girl has a boyfriend anyways," he responds. I love how he justifies everything for the sake of getting laid. I laughed, I know him so well, "like her having a boyfriend would stop you." He replies, "haha you're right. It wouldn't stop me. The boyfriend factor should only stop her, and seriously, who can resist me." Oh the arrogance (but it's true, he's nearly impossible to resist!)

I tell him again that I think what he's doing isn't right, not without talking to Girl Version first. I thought I had gotten through to him. Later on in the evening I see a bit of an angry FB status from Girl Version. I text her and ask if she's okay. She said, "I'm alright but DB and my friendship will never be alright ever again." An hour later, I had heard every disgusting, douchebag, sneaky, manipulative thing he'd pulled in their relationship, and going after her best friend is nothing compared to the other things. I literally was shaking with anger and disgust. I felt disgusted that I had even spent time with him earlier. I really don't want to go into all the details because despite that this is an anonymous blog, what she told me was incredibly personal and I don't feel like it's something that needs to be aired to whomever reads the blog. Trust me when I tell you that it's despicable.


I'm pretty worried about running into him because he will most definitely get an earful from me. I don't think I could hold back. I always knew that he used women for sex, but I never knew to what extent and how manipulative he could be. Obviously the boy has issues, and one of these days those issues are going to catch up to him. The most ridiculous thing is, Girl Version said towards the end of our conversation. "I just needed a little more time. If they gave me a little more time and talked to me about it, I would have set them up!" Smh

10pm Grilled Cheese

It's Monday night, 10:20pm and I'm sitting in front of my computer with a beer and a grilled cheese. Why am I telling you this? Because the most excitement I have in my life is late night grilled cheese sandwiches and a bottle of cheap (yet, delicious) beer. How sad is that?

Actually, something exciting did happen in the last few days. One of my very close friends from Ontario came down to visit. This friend of mine used to date DB a long, long time ago. They broke up, and remained friends. When she visits she usually spends 90% of her time with him, about 7% with her family, and the remaining 3% with me and a few other friends. I wondered how it would be this time because all the other times she's visited, DB has been single. This time however, he's with Girl Version now and they're doing really well (and as far as I'm concerned, I hope they stay together forever!) So it's really no surprise that he hasn't made an effort to see her since she's come down. This left ample amounts of time for her to spend with me...except, I CAN'T HANDLE MUCH MORE OF HER!!!

I feel like a bad friend because I'm getting so friggin' annoyed with her and I haven't seen her in over a year. She has a tendency to mother me though. It bothers me a lot, but when it's over the phone, I can just zone out. When it's in person though...ughhh annoyed. It's not like I don't respect my friends advice, it's just that she mother's me about the most ridiculous things and it often feels like she thinks she knows more about everything because she is a few years older.

I love the girl to death, but her being down here, makes me feel like I have to entertain her. And then when we go out to one of the 3 bars, she complains about how lame it is in this town (like it was a surprise to her...uh you lived here for 22 years you should know what it's gonna be like) and sorta makes me feel like it's my fault. It's not like we haven't had fun, I think I can only handle so much of her though. She seems like she's expecting me to entertain her while she's down. She has other friends out here, and her family lives out here so I really wasn't expecting to have her attached at my hip the whole time.

I managed to get away the rest of tonight, and I'm feeling a little better but I still needed to vent. So, do you think I'm a bad friend?

end rant.